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"I can't believe our
mediation went so
smoothly. I am
certain we would
have wound up
not speaking to
each other if we
mediation went so
smoothly. I am
certain we would
have wound up
not speaking to
each other if we
What is Divorce Mediation?
Divorce Mediation is a process by which you and your
spouse or partner can negotiate an agreement ion the
terms of your divorce or separation in a cooperative,
non-adversarial way.
Divorce Mediation is a process by which you and your
spouse or partner can negotiate an agreement ion the
terms of your divorce or separation in a cooperative,
non-adversarial way.
went to an attorney. Now we can cooperatively parent
our children." Barbara L.
our children." Barbara L.
| Frequently Asked Questions |
Divorce Mediation
Do you want a divorce yet do not know where to turn?
Are you afraid to go to an attorney because of the
heavy fees involved?
Do you want to avoid the adversarial legal process
and remain "friends with your spouse?
Are you interested in the best interests of your
children?
Are you afraid to go to an attorney because of the
heavy fees involved?
Do you want to avoid the adversarial legal process
and remain "friends with your spouse?
Are you interested in the best interests of your
children?
When couples decide to divorce, they often find
themselves in unknown territory. Some experience
great turmoil. Others emotionally divorced many
years prior and feel relieved. The rest fall
somewhere in the middle.
For most, though, divorce represents transition...
and transitions...although holding the seeds for
growth and change, often are uncomfortable. When
children are involved, the decision can become
even more confusing and deliberate.
Many times when a couple wishes to divorce, they
choose to seek an attorney to assist them with this
process. Often because of the nature of the divorce
process in New York State, two people who wanted
to have a collegial type of divorce wind up bitter
enemies.
Divorce Mediation enables the couple to focus on
the best interests of the children and to develop a
parenting plan that will help them raise their children
with minimal issues.
Divorce Mediation assists people in doing A
Competent Divorce.
themselves in unknown territory. Some experience
great turmoil. Others emotionally divorced many
years prior and feel relieved. The rest fall
somewhere in the middle.
For most, though, divorce represents transition...
and transitions...although holding the seeds for
growth and change, often are uncomfortable. When
children are involved, the decision can become
even more confusing and deliberate.
Many times when a couple wishes to divorce, they
choose to seek an attorney to assist them with this
process. Often because of the nature of the divorce
process in New York State, two people who wanted
to have a collegial type of divorce wind up bitter
enemies.
Divorce Mediation enables the couple to focus on
the best interests of the children and to develop a
parenting plan that will help them raise their children
with minimal issues.
Divorce Mediation assists people in doing A
Competent Divorce.
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How do I know if Mediation is right for us?
You basically don't. But if you are interested in
mediating your divorce, go to a mediator for a few
sessions and see if you find it helpful.
What are the advantages of Mediation?
Mediation saves time, money and emotional energy.
Because the mediator is trained to control the process,
arguments do not escalate and real communication
about the very real issues of divorce can begin. By
helping you develop creative parenting arrangements,
mediation can help you maintain the parenting part of
your relationship even though the couple part has
dissolved.
Will the Mediator try to get us back together?
No, getting couples back together is the goal of the
couples therapist. The mediator assumes that because
you have come for mediation that you have already
made the decision to divorce.
What happens during the Mediation Process?
During the first session of mediation, the mediator will
explain the process and give you forms to take home
and fill out. The mediator may also give you some
handouts if you have children giving you direction on
how to competently help your children through the
divorce. Once you have filled out the forms you return
to the mediator and discuss the areas that you were
able to agree on and those where you had problems.
The mediator will also stress that you can make any
agreement that you want, and if needed, the mediator
will explain the laws and norms for divorce in your area.
You basically don't. But if you are interested in
mediating your divorce, go to a mediator for a few
sessions and see if you find it helpful.
What are the advantages of Mediation?
Mediation saves time, money and emotional energy.
Because the mediator is trained to control the process,
arguments do not escalate and real communication
about the very real issues of divorce can begin. By
helping you develop creative parenting arrangements,
mediation can help you maintain the parenting part of
your relationship even though the couple part has
dissolved.
Will the Mediator try to get us back together?
No, getting couples back together is the goal of the
couples therapist. The mediator assumes that because
you have come for mediation that you have already
made the decision to divorce.
What happens during the Mediation Process?
During the first session of mediation, the mediator will
explain the process and give you forms to take home
and fill out. The mediator may also give you some
handouts if you have children giving you direction on
how to competently help your children through the
divorce. Once you have filled out the forms you return
to the mediator and discuss the areas that you were
able to agree on and those where you had problems.
The mediator will also stress that you can make any
agreement that you want, and if needed, the mediator
will explain the laws and norms for divorce in your area.
You work with a mediator who
is impartial and
non-judgmental. The
mediator helps you develop
an agreement that plans for
the future,
is impartial and
non-judgmental. The
mediator helps you develop
an agreement that plans for
the future,
and if you have children, will help you develop a
parenting plan for them.
parenting plan for them.
© 2007 Divorce Mediation Site By: Joan D. Atwood
To schedule an appointment call or
E-Mail us at jatwood@optonline.net
E-Mail us at jatwood@optonline.net
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